Coping With Emotions in Early Recovery

Why AA Celebrates Milestones

An addict’s first Alcoholics Anonymous meeting will be a very welcoming experience. Members of AA would describe it as a miracle. There are twenty-four-hour tokens given to its newcomers in their first 30 days of sobriety. Some members would describe this time as the most difficult. It’s important to give alcoholics in early recovery a positive first impression so that they keep coming back. It’s crucial that newcomers hear the experience, strength, and hope of those who came before them. It’s also important for the older members to see and hear what it would be like to drink again. The stories that are told by newcomers are reminders that while in the disease, it’s ugly and dark. Although life will never be perfect, newcomers can see there’s another way. Those working the 12 steps, can be proof for those skeptical that the program really works.

Newcomers are told they never have to drink again. Simple slogans such as one day at a time, easy does it, and keep it simple, are there as guides to stay present and grateful during such a challenging time. Members of AA can choose to count their days sober and that’s what gives them the chance to celebrate milestones. Each group has a set of different guidelines for the distribution of tokens, but on average groups will celebrate thirty days, sixty days, ninety days, six months, nine months, one year and thereafter. This gives alcoholics a sense of accomplishment and motivation. Some groups will ask that they tell the others how they did it but never pressure anyone to do anything that may feel uncomfortable. The point is to show newcomers that sobriety is possible, while in early recovery, it’s easy to feel hopeless.

Having milestones also gives the alcoholic something to look forward to. It’s not recommended to think about the future as much as it is to be given the chance to live sober. When others tell to the group how they did what seemed impossible, the explanation serves as a guide to give the newcomer tools to move forward. The 12-steps should always be suggested in order to achieve the gifts sobriety has to offer. No one has to do anything they don’t want. Sobriety the AA way only proposes suggestions. However, if the newcomer wants to receive the promises of Alcoholics Anonymous, there are a few things they must do and maintain. The program’s members lead by example. A sponsor is suggested to take newcomers through the steps as a way to stay sober themselves. It’s a beautiful cycle of alcoholics helping other alcoholics and that is a big deal worth celebrating. Now, let them eat cake!

Enlightened Solutions believes that a 12-step program will help maintain sobriety when re entering life after treatment. It’s crucial that the addict keep working on their recovery and we offer guidance into AA in our partial program treatment facility. Call 833-801-5483 today for information on our partial care programs in New Jersey.


The Sponsor/Sponsee Roles in AA’s 12-Step Program

The Sponsor/Sponsee Roles in AA’s 12-Step Program

There are many different support groups in the game of addiction. The few that fall into a similar category include Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Narcotics Anonymous (NA), Cocaine Anonymous (CA), Overeaters Anonymous (OA), Al-Anon, Codependents Anonymous (CODA). These all follow a 12-step program. Upon early recovery, it’s suggested to attend meetings daily. While finding meetings that fit, it’s important to keep an eye out for a sponsor. A sponsor is defined as another member who takes the sponsee through the 12 steps. A sponsee would be defined as a new member to the program or a member that wants to repeat the steps. A new member or newcomer should look for a sponsor that has what they want for themselves. This can mean a few different things that include happiness, spirituality, healthy relationships and so on. It’s suggested for the sponsee to interview the potential sponsor before entering an agreement that may as well be doomed from the start. Here are a few questions a sponsee might consider asking:

  • What is expected of me?
  • Do you have a call time? (A time each day to call)
  • How quickly will we be going through the steps?

Now that the sponsee has chosen the right fit. It’s time to establish boundaries. There are certain roles the sponsor may not feel comfortable playing. Bringing the family into the recovery of the alcoholic, or any other member seeking help should be not be taken lightly. There are boundaries that can be crossed left and right. It’s wise to make them clear from the start. That’s not saying the family should not be involved in recovery. The 12-steps were built to release the person suffering from the bondage of whatever addiction that may be. It is a sensitive topic that not everyone wants their family being apart of every step of the way. The information must be kept confidential between the sponsee and sponsor to maintain trust. That being said, the sponsor/sponsee relationship is about the sponsee. The sponsor will most times be there for the sponsee during hard times and make suggestions. The sponsor will take the sponsee down a path that they had followed themselves to get sober. This is meant to keep the sponsor sober, thus the beauty of the program. The sponsee must follow suggestions and do the 12 steps to remain spiritually fit and on the road to recovery.

Enlightened Solutions encourages our patients to take advantage of AA’s 12 step program. Our partial program will give the addict the ability to find what works for them our their journey to recovery. Given the opportunity to connect with the community is a life skill we believe in here in New Jersey. Please call for more information: 833-801-5483.