Healthy Communication and Respect

Healthy Communication and Respect

No relationship is perfect, but there are some key elements that happy relationships tend to have in common. Unhealthy dynamics in these areas can cause people to express their emotions, or not express them, in very unhealthy ways.

Communication

People in healthy relationship with one another communicate. We all have different ways of communicating and expressing ourselves. Speaking is just one of many forms of communication. For some people, speaking can be very difficult, especially when dealing with sensitive subjects and challenging situations. Some people find writing out their thoughts much easier than speaking and prefer to communicate by letter, email or text when something is too tough to talk about in person. Others use their art to express themselves. Many people have a tendency to shut down altogether and have a very hard time communicating their thoughts and emotions. And some people dominate the interaction, not allowing others the chance to speak, to be heard and understood.

There are countless communication styles, as varied as we are as people. Healthy dynamics encourage people to figure out their communication styles, and to work with each other to expand their communication skills and strengths. Healthy communication means finding ways of handling conflict, disagreement and emotional subjects in ways that work for everyone, making sure everyone’s needs are met. Healthy relationships encourage listening to understand and empathize, rather than interrupting or rushing to respond.

Respect

Mutual respect is a must for healthy partnerships of all kinds, whether family, friend or intimate relationships. Having respect for another person means caring about their emotions, understanding and holding space for their needs, and being sensitive to their challenges. Respecting someone means respecting their boundaries and giving them the same care we would want for ourselves. It means allowing others their autonomy and independence without trying to force our own expectations, issues or concerns upon them. Respect and abuse are mutually exclusive, and once a relationship experiences any form of abuse, the trust between those people, and the respect between them, can be very hard to rebuild.

If we look closely at our relationships, we might see that they have been lacking respect in various ways- the ways in which we communicate with one another, how we choose to treat each other, and how we resolve conflict.

In our interactions and dynamics with one other, healthy communication, consideration and respect go a long way towards having happy, functioning relationships, as well as healthy minds and hearts.

Improving relationships is a focal point at Enlightened Solutions. We are here to help. Call (833) 801-LIVE.


Addiction is a Family Disease

Addiction is a Family Disease

While in the disease of addiction, one may feel that there is no way out. Denial can be so strong it might seem like tunnel vision. Friends and family members may begin to feel that there is no hope for recovery in their loved one- which is extremely depleting and frustrating. Those who have been enabling addictive behavior, must learn about the harms of enabling and why it must be immediately stopped. However, there should be no shame put forth onto the friends and family members of someone struggling with addiction. If there is to be any progress in getting a loved one struggling with addiction the help they need, it’s time for an intervention.

Interventions give those who truly care about their family member or friend struggling with addiction a safe place to have a necessary confrontation. There should be no judgment or prejudice. In no circumstances, should there be screaming and/or violence. Intervening in someone’s life must come from a loving place. There should be a plan put in place, such as detox and treatment. This is the first step in getting the person in the disease away from the substance’s tight hold. Loved ones may have a hard time standing firm, but they too need to accept the powerlessness of the disease. Things have to change and there’s no better time than the present.

There is always the chance that people will not accept help. If this happens there must be consequences. The enabling must stop and there will have to be new found means of survival or life without certain luxuries. The person with the additive behavior needs to hear from loved ones the harm they had caused and the pleas for action. Communication is key for an intervention to take place, which is why it is encouraged to utilize an intervention specialist. This way, family members can learn where they can go for help as well. If there is more than one family member in the addiction, arrangements will be made. It’s a solution for families as a whole because, in the end, it is a family disease.

 

Enlightened Solutions offers help with addiction, alcoholism and/or mental health. All whose affected will benefit from the healing process. Come to New Jersey and start fighting for a better life today. For more information call: 833-801-LIVE.