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Men and Women Experience Addiction Differently

Men and women are scientifically found, generally speaking, to have different experiences with addiction. These differences are discovered both in the causes of addiction and the way that addiction presents in the lives of men and women.  These differences have been found to influence both the ability to maintain continuous sobriety and the quality of care received in treatment facilities.  Understanding how these differences correlate to mainstream gender roles in Western culture can increase potential for recovery success.

Gender roles, although generalizations, can bolster a recovery foundation that increases odds of continuous sobriety.  Women are found to engage addiction as a coping mechanism for trauma whereas men become addicted through peer pressure and the pursuit of power.  Working with these basic themes can aid in cultivating healthy relationships with the self.  Those working with women may support them in establishing alternative coping mechanisms and encourage them to pursue trauma treatment.  With men, fostering an internal sense of approval will support them in resisting pursuits of peer approval or unhealthy power dynamics.

While these basic gender differences occur, be mindful to recognize that these two basic themes can be interchanged.  Misuse of power in men may be later processed as a trauma healing process; untreated trauma may make women susceptible to entering codependent relationships as another form of peer pressure.

Once awareness of gender roles has entered the recovery process, a solid foundation for a deeper self awareness can begin.  This can be either in alignment to or opposition to these gender roles.  Actions exploring these typical ways of being can become a playground for recreating the life of the addict.  In other cases, playing with discovery outside of these generalization can be wonderful method to healing codependency.  Awareness of either journey is an avenue for actualizing a life that is happy, joyous and free.  

If you are struggling with addiction, alcoholism, and/or mental health, know that there is hope. There is a solution. Harmoniously fusing together the best elements of clinical care, holistic healing, and 12-step philosophy, Enlightened Solutions has created a program of total transformation for men and women seeking recovery. Call 833-801-5483 today for information on our partial care programs in New Jersey.

Is There A Spiritual Side To Depression?

Is There A Spiritual Side To Depression?

Living with depression is a challenging life experience.  The experience of depression can feel like the attempt to run through waist-deep tar.  Even though you long to sprint through the day, every breath, every step, every thought is moving through the sticky toxicity of depression.  The dualism of depression is that there is a deep longing to be released from it, yet its very nature can block an individual from taking actions that will shift it.  

As we consider how to work with this dualism, it is important to acknowledge that two basic kinds of depression exist. These are depression that is contextually induced and depression that is clinical or chemical in nature.  In the following discussion, we are exploring actions that may influence change with contextual depression.  

The definition of the word ‘depress’ is to be in a lower state and when speaking in spiritual terms, the spiritual life can sometimes be discussed as the pursuit of the ‘higher’ self.  In these terms, the remedy for being relieved of depress-ion is to pursuit elevation of the self.  The self can be elevated by pursuing higher expressions of it self.

Becoming elevated can be accessible by simply choosing to look at our depression differently.  When an individual is dealing with depression, it may be natural and comfortable to look at the circumstances of life as happening to you.  Whether the context is a job loss, relationship ending or the bottom of an addiction, it can be easy to feel like a victim for those circumstances.  However, one can begin to choose our higher self when they pause and ask themselves what actions they might take to create a new situation for their lives.

Sometimes, depression can begin the process of shifting even by simply asking ourselves this question, even if we do not yet have the next right action to take.  The question allows an individual to embrace the possibility that they have access to the internal resources to change their experience and this is an un-depressed perspective.  Once one is willing to ask the question, the higher self will begin to emerge leading the lower part of you to the actions necessary to change the context of your life.  


Enlightened Recovery Solutions offers a harmonious approach to holistic treatment, bringing together the best of evidence-based, alternative, and 12-step therapies. Call us today for information on our transformation programs of treatment for addiction and alcoholism: 833-801-5483.