Making the Conscious Decision to Choose Healing

Making the Conscious Decision to Choose Healing

Many of us living with addiction struggle against our illness, and therefore ourselves, for the entire duration of the addiction. We’re fighting against the truth that we are in fact addicts. We resist coming to terms with our harsh reality. When we’re ready, finally, to tackle the recovery process, the journey begins with a choice. We have to make the conscious decision that we want to heal, that we can’t possibly continue our lives going in this direction. Our lives have become unmanageable and our pain unbearable. When we’re finally at that point, what many of us refer to as rock bottom, we desperately want to get better. We miss our lives, the people we love, the people we used to be. We crave inner peace. When we’re not quite ready to do the work needed for recovery, we haven’t yet made that critical decision that we in fact need and want to heal.

We put off getting help even when we know we need it. We procrastinate on making decisions and deliberate on whether or not to seek out support. We try to convince ourselves our problem isn’t so serious. We try to persuade ourselves into thinking that we’ll be able to quit on our own. We tell ourselves this time will work, this time we’ll be successful. At the root of our ambivalence and procrastination is fear. We fear disclosing our secret to people, especially loved ones, because we don’t want to disappoint them. We don’t want them to be ashamed of us. We fear being judged, rejected, scorned and shunned. Many of us are already isolating ourselves so much that we don’t want to lose what little connection to our loved ones we may still have. Even though we’re struggling, we’re deeply afraid, so we continue to suffer alone.

Many of us are understandably afraid of doing the work of recovery. We might not be ready to undertake the biggest challenge of our lives and face the greatest hurdles we’ll ever overcome. When we’re ready to do the work, though, we’ll make the conscious decision that we can’t maintain our lives the way they are anymore. We can’t continue to be the person we’ve become. Once we make the decision and start doing the work, we’ll start to feel a sense of fulfillment and peace many of us have never felt before.

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Subconscious Blocks to Healing

Subconscious Blocks to Healing

While we’re working towards recovery, we will inevitably be confronted with different forms of internal resistance, blocks within us that are preventing us from healing. Our subconscious mind is where our emotional information and memory is stored, including our wounds, memories of our trauma, and our deeply rooted fears. Often when we’re trying to heal from addictions and mental health issues, we’re mostly dealing with our conscious emotions and issues, the things we’re already aware of. In therapy, for example, we’re discussing the issues we’re conscious of, the traumatic experiences we can remember, the problems we already know we have. Until we start going deeper to heal on a subconscious level, we’ll only be scratching the surface of our potential for healing. Learning about the subconscious blocks we’re holding onto within us can help us achieve more transformative healing.

We can get clues as to what is stored in our subconscious mind by listening to our self-talk, monitoring how we feel by default when we’re not paying attention, and examining our beliefs. What kinds of things does your inner voice say about you, and about your potential for recovery? Are you consciously working your recovery program but internally battling a voice telling you that recovery is impossible? Are your default emotions full of hopelessness and fear? Are you holding onto limiting beliefs about yourself and your ability to heal?

Many of us consciously want to believe the best about ourselves and our recovery but subconsciously believe that we’re not good enough, that we aren’t strong enough to get better, that we don’t have what it takes to do what’s best for ourselves. Our self-talk is full of discouraging, belittling and stifling language. We don’t believe in our strength, our willpower, our courage, or our potential. Many of us have seen other addicts attempt recovery and then fail, which can feed a subconscious belief that we will fail too and that recovery is impossible for us. When we aren’t monitoring how we feel, we slip into thoughts of despair and defeat. We list our failures and mistakes rather than our accomplishments and strengths. We are subconsciously rooting for our downfall rather than our success.

Since the subconscious mind governs the vast majority of our daily lives, our subconscious blocks to healing inform everything in our lives, from the things we think, to the emotions we have, and the beliefs we hold onto. Our chances of recovery are only as likely as our ability to really believe that we can recover.

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Processing Stress In Recovery

Nobody likes stress. In fact, no body likes stress. Stress, it has been proven hundreds of times over, is incredibly bad for your health. Stress is one of the leading causes of disease, heart failure, and poor health throughout the world. To deal with stress, the body produces adrenaline, which stimulates the fight or flight response. Inherently we don’t even really “deal” with stress, we either fight it off or run away from it. Going against our survival instincts and choosing to work through stress is a major part of growing in recovery. Life can be stressful, but the stress does not have to win. Here are some tips for learning to grow through stress rather than run from it, fight it, or be consumed by it to the point of ill health.

Failure Happens

“Progress not perfection” is a popular saying in the rooms of recovery and twelve step meetings.  The Big Book of Alcoholics in Chapter 5 titled “How it Works” reads, “No one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints. The point is, that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. The principles we have set down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection.” The truth is, nobody is perfect. Trying to bear the responsibility of being that one perfect person is just too much for anyone’s back. As alcoholics and addicts, we tend to convince ourselves we’re “special”. We have to succeed because we are capable of it, even if nobody understands. Consequently, we begin to view failure as stress and stress as failure. Stress is a natural reaction to life. Being the wonderfully imperfect beings that we are, we get stressed and sometimes we “fail”. It’s okay.

Give It Away To Keep It

Stress is actually a gift of recovery. In early recovery, we work hard to keep our stress at a minimum in an effort to support our treatment. We continue to grow and begin living our life again. Jobs, responsibilities, all the little pieces of life come trickling back in, and cause us stress. The truth is, we worked hard to get here. We’ve earned our stress because we’ve developed an entirely new manner of living in which to handle it- even if we don’t always handle it well.

Being of service is a critically important component in recovery. One of the quickest and most sure-fire ways to get out of self when you are super focused on your stress is to be of service to another person. You might be thinking you don’t have time to be of service because you are too busy with all the stressful things you have going on. Usually, that’s the strongest indicator that you need to make the time. It will significantly help you reduce your stress by helping you get grounded and grateful for the life you have created!

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From Hopeless to Hopeful

You’re in the hospital, again. You’ve been arrested, again. You woke up somewhere without knowing where you are or how you got there, again. How does this keep happening? Didn’t you only mean to have just one drink? After so many times, it has stopped being a spectacle of entertainment. Nobody seems to be laughing anymore or considering your ‘crazy’ stories to be anything less than definitively insane. You find yourself with some startling thoughts. Thoughts which, once you start mindfully paying attention to them, feel familiar, as though you’ve considered their meaning many times; yet, at the same time, they feel incredibly foreign like a dress in a closet full of pant suits. These thoughts question whether or not you might have some kind of “problem”, if there is any chance for you to get help with this problem, or if there is any hope. When you touch on that word hope you feel your heart race, your stomach drop, and you can practically feel your pupils dilate as fear sets in.


What if there’s no hope for me?


The honest truth is this. There are likely many people in your life who are starting to have the same fear. Time after time, hope after hope, all dreams have fallen short of you finding recovery and getting sober. Learning that life can be lived without drugs or alcohol seems to be a lesson you just can’t pick up. Things are looking hopeless.


However, there is an even more honest truth to be told.


You are not hopeless.

In fact, your life is hopeful.


Indeed, there are many problems that come with being an addict or an alcoholic. Messes have been created and messes will have to be cleaned up both inside and outside. The fact that you are still here means hope for you has not been lost. Self-remorse, self-pity, shame, guilt, and all around self-centeredness are par for the course with addiction and alcoholism. Likely in this broken moment you are experiencing, you can’t see how you might be an exception to divine detention. You are. You really are.


Enlightened Solutions know that there is hope for you and great things ahead when you choose to get sober. We are here to help you every step of the way. It starts with you. So start with us. Call Enlightened Solutions today for more information on our treatment programs for addiction, alcoholism, and dual diagnosis issues. 833-801-5483.