The Sponsor/Sponsee Roles in AA’s 12-Step Program

The Sponsor/Sponsee Roles in AA’s 12-Step Program

There are many different support groups in the game of addiction. The few that fall into a similar category include Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Narcotics Anonymous (NA), Cocaine Anonymous (CA), Overeaters Anonymous (OA), Al-Anon, Codependents Anonymous (CODA). These all follow a 12-step program. Upon early recovery, it’s suggested to attend meetings daily. While finding meetings that fit, it’s important to keep an eye out for a sponsor. A sponsor is defined as another member who takes the sponsee through the 12 steps. A sponsee would be defined as a new member to the program or a member that wants to repeat the steps. A new member or newcomer should look for a sponsor that has what they want for themselves. This can mean a few different things that include happiness, spirituality, healthy relationships and so on. It’s suggested for the sponsee to interview the potential sponsor before entering an agreement that may as well be doomed from the start. Here are a few questions a sponsee might consider asking:

  • What is expected of me?
  • Do you have a call time? (A time each day to call)
  • How quickly will we be going through the steps?

Now that the sponsee has chosen the right fit. It’s time to establish boundaries. There are certain roles the sponsor may not feel comfortable playing. Bringing the family into the recovery of the alcoholic, or any other member seeking help should be not be taken lightly. There are boundaries that can be crossed left and right. It’s wise to make them clear from the start. That’s not saying the family should not be involved in recovery. The 12-steps were built to release the person suffering from the bondage of whatever addiction that may be. It is a sensitive topic that not everyone wants their family being apart of every step of the way. The information must be kept confidential between the sponsee and sponsor to maintain trust. That being said, the sponsor/sponsee relationship is about the sponsee. The sponsor will most times be there for the sponsee during hard times and make suggestions. The sponsor will take the sponsee down a path that they had followed themselves to get sober. This is meant to keep the sponsor sober, thus the beauty of the program. The sponsee must follow suggestions and do the 12 steps to remain spiritually fit and on the road to recovery.

Enlightened Solutions encourages our patients to take advantage of AA’s 12 step program. Our partial program will give the addict the ability to find what works for them our their journey to recovery. Given the opportunity to connect with the community is a life skill we believe in here in New Jersey. Please call for more information: 833-801-5483.


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What Are Some Ways Alcoholics Hide Their Alcoholism?

Alcoholics have to hide two things: their drinking and their alcoholism. Inherently, one protects the other.

They Refuse To Admit They Have A Problem

While they may not be doing the best job at hiding their drinking problem anymore, they are giving their denial every effort that they have. By refusing to acknowledge the truth, they can evade criticisms and accusations. Locking themselves further away from their loved ones and friends, they can continue to drink in spite of themselves. For those who have never experienced what is often called the “insanity” of alcoholism, it is difficult to understand this process. Chemical dependency upon alcohol changes the brain’s ability to make good judgments and choices based on consequences. Alcoholism is essentially a non-consequential mental health disorder for those who have it- meaning that they have a constitutional inability to see the consequences of their actions- or at least to feel that any negative consequences outweighs the benefit of consuming more alcohol. Alcoholism in the brain causes a restructuring which results in alcohol being prioritized over everything else.

Friends & Family Are Often Enablers

Codependency is a term which was born out of alcoholism treatment. Therapists were confounded by the way that so many family members and spouses of alcoholics enabled their loved one’s drinking and using. Alcoholism is commonly referred to as a family disease, meaning that the entire family is effected with a “sickness” when their loved one falls “ill” to alcoholism. Out of concern for their loved one’s health, they continue to allow them to drink and even buy them alcohol. Enabling is just one characteristic of codependency. It can include harmful behaviors like covering for the alcoholic, paying for legal matters, buying alcohol, or even getting drunk with the alcoholic.

Environment Can Play A Part

Some environments are riddled with unspoken alcohol abuse. College campuses, for example, are infamous as being the headquarters for binge drinking and the early development of alcoholism. High stress work places can include a lot of alcohol, as can work places which encourage the sale and distribution of alcohol. Alcohol based industries, for example, thrive on consuming alcohol and convincing others it’s enjoyable. Often times there are many alcoholics fledgling in these environments who can cover it up by simply saying that everyone is doing it. While may people, even a majority of people, may be abusing alcohol, not everyone will become chemically dependent upon it.

Alcoholism can be healed. If you or a loved one are struggling to manage drinking, there is a solution. Our programs provide integrative care, bringing together holistic and clinically proven treatment methods with a twelve step foundation to provide total healing of mind, body, and spirit. Call us today for more information, at 833-801-5483.


Yes, You’re Going To Do Yoga In Rehab: Here’s What You Need To Know

Yes, You’re Going To Do Yoga In Rehab: Here’s What You Need To Know

Yoga has become a staple of treatment for recovery from addiction, alcoholism, and mental health. Used as an integrative, preventative, and therapeutic practice, yoga is an essential tool for early recovery.

You’re Not Going To Do Yoga Every Day

For many people, their experience with yoga during their stay in a treatment facility for addiction will be their first. Trained yoga teachers, especially those versed in addiction treatment, will be skilled in working with the newcomer and slowly introducing them to the practice. After a few weeks you might find yourself working up to a daily practice. As it is said in recovery, “easy does it”. Take it one day at a time. Yoga is not about competition, judgment, or even achievement. The true practice of yoga lies in meeting yourself exactly where you are and embracing yourself there.

You Are Going To Notice A Change Every Day

You may not touch your toes in a forward bend after just a few therapeutic yoga sessions, but you might notice other positive benefits. Innumerable scientific research studies have been dedicated to analyzing the positive benefits of yoga. For addicts and alcoholics in recovery, there are specific benefits of yoga that are especially helpful. Yoga has been proven to reduce the intensity or presence of symptoms for mental health disorders like depression and anxiety.

Addiction and alcoholism affect the brain, body, and spirit. Yoga helps rejuvenate the body by making it stronger and more flexible. Stress is greatly reduced through yoga practice which helps the heart become more healthy and function better.

Each day of yoga helps us open up. Yoga is about finding union between the mind, body, and the spirit. Starting a journey of spirituality through recovery where you are also working on healing the mind and body is challenging. Drugs and alcohol shut our minds off and leave us at dis-ease with ourselves. Yoga gently helps us to settle back into who we are as a holistic whole.

Enlightened Solutions provides spiritual and holistic healing and therapeutic treatment modalities as part of an integrative treatment program. As a certified and licensed dual diagnosis treatment center, Enlightened is able to serve the needs of those suffering from addiction, alcoholism, and co-occurring mental health diagnoses. Combining the philosophy of the 12 steps with evidence based treatment methods, the program at Enlightened is a soulful approach to starting life long sobriety. For more information on our programs please call 833-801-5483.